Cindy,
the latest contestant on Fox’s The Swan (a
bizarre concoction of Extreme Makeover, Starting
Over, Are You Hot?, Queen for a Day,
and The Miss American Pageant) is about to experience
the "big reveal". She has spent three months undergoing
an endobrow lift, mid-face lift, cheek fat removal, fat removal
under eyes, lip augmentation, liposuction, chin refinement,
fotofacial, laser hair removal, collagen, lasik surgery, breast
augmentation, tummy tuck, liposuction on the inner thighs,
a 1200 calories a day diet, and two hours a day in the gym.
Just
in case it all gets too much for Cindy there is also weekly
therapy and life-coaching.
Cindy
is a 32 year old mother of two sons and the wife of a loving
husband. Each day during her three month ordeal she would
weep uncontrollably over her homesickness. Her boys would
cry on the phone for her to come home.
But
she would tell them she had to stay because “The Swan
program will make me a better person. Mommy has to do this.”
Your
heart goes out to Cindy. Fighting back tears, she tells how
her classmates would call her "witch". She’s
always hated her face and her body. Even now, to have sex
with her husband, she turns the lights off and wears a t-shirt.
“I am just so embarrassed. I feel so ugly.”
So
Cindy’s confidence (vis-à-vis her body) has been
overhauled by an eight-member team including two plastic surgeons,
a fitness trainer, a dermatologist, a cosmetic dentist, and
a life coach. Like Steve Austin in The Six Million Dollar
Man before her, they have rebuilt her. They have made
her better.
For
the three months during her reconstruction all of the mirrors
in her hotel room have been removed. She has not been allowed
to see how she looks. This is to add suspense to the "big
reveal" when she and 15 million viewers see the new and
improved Cindy for the first time.
It
is reminiscent of the greatest reveal of all time. Thirsty
from a long hunt, and bored from avoiding the ugly people
and horny nymphs, Narcissus too had never seen his image.
Cursed by Nemesis to “love but not win over the creature
who he loves,” Narcissus approaches a magical pond with
still, silver water capable of a perfectly mirrored reflection.
When he sees himself he falls deeply in love with his image.
But as he reaches out to touch his beloved, he disturbs the
water and his beloved is gone. His love can never be satisfied.
He dies from the heartbreak of unrequited love.
Cindy
has so much more in her life than Narcissus. She is deeply
loved by her kids and her husband. And she deeply loves them.
But unlike Narcissus, Cindy does not love herself. She stands
Ovid’s myth on its head. She loves others but not herself.
Maybe if she is beautiful like Narcissus she will love herself
like he does.
Tragically,
in current American culture, the image you project is often
more important than the life you live or the love you share.
As
the curtain parts, Cindy (like Narcissus before her) sees
herself for the first time. Her appearance has dramatically
changed. She breaks into tears and sobs, “I don’t
recognize myself at all. I am beautiful!”
The
other pretty people attending the "big reveal" break
into applause. They weep with her and embrace her. Unlike
the nymph Echo who withered away after Narcissus spurned her
advances because she was plain, Cindy now is acceptable.
From
all appearances, Cindy’s self-esteem has been saved
by this extreme makeover.
From
Roman myth to American television, the desire to project a
perfect image persists. But unlike ancient times, we now possess
the technology to dramatically change our physical appearance.
Other
technological prowess extends beyond cosmetic surgery. It
can effect more than just how we look. We are capable of creating
elaborate and believable illusions of reality in many areas
of our lives. These illusions seem to come to life. Not only
can Cindy change from an ugly duckling to a beautiful swan,
she can also fill her days with amusements and occupations
that are almost entirely human made.
Many
believe we no longer live in a God-made reality. Modern simulations
create the impression that we have transcended everyday life.
As
Daniel Boorstin tells it in his book The Image;
We
need not be theologians to see that we have shifted responsibility
for making the world interesting from God to the media….Demanding
more than the world can give us, we require that something
be fabricated to make up for the world’s deficiency.
This is only one example of our demand for illusions.
In
a wealthy and technologically advanced society such as ours
we have plenty of spectacular illusions. Movies, computer
games, modern amusement parks, the Internet, biotechnology,
reality T.V., and nanotechnology all promise to turn each
of us into a mixture of fantasy incarnate and commoditized
product. We believe we no longer are bound by the limitations
that once controlled human life.
There
is much good that can come from man-made realities. As Boorstin
sees it;
It
is not created by demagogues or crooks, by conspiracy or
evil purpose. The efficient mass production of pseudo-events
in all kinds of packages, in black and white, in Technicolor,
in words, and in a thousand other forms, is the work of
the whole machinery of our society. It is the daily product
of men of good will.
The
danger is when we forget the source of these goods; namely
the God who made the world and commanded us to be responsible
for it. This moral foundation acts as a powerful corrective
to human excesses.
The
same is true on the emotional level. If our lives become just
our own invention, if all we do is fill our lives with our
own fabricated illusions or human-made realities, then the
world we live in will be a mere contrivance of a greater reality;
the world God made.
Humans
instrumentalize. God creates.
A
cautionary stance is best when considering human-made realities.
Again,
Boorstin;
The
American citizen thus lives in a world where fantasy is
more real than reality, where the image has more dignity
than its original. We hardly dare face our bewilderment,
because our ambiguous experience is so pleasantly iridescent,
and the solace of belief in contrived reality is so thoroughly
real. We have become eager accessories to the great hoaxes
of the age. These are the hoaxes we play on ourselves.
Cindy’s
reconstructed beauty will one day fade. What can remain permanent
in her life is the love she shares with her family if they
remain devoted to each other.
It
is the same love that Narcissus and Echo desperately desired
but never found. |